It all comes down to these three things:
1) How we show up (Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson)
2) What we say yes to (Barb Avila)
3) Who we are in the presence of others (Isela Garcia)
Feeling secure is the culminating effective of feeling safe, seen, and soothed.
If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person. — Fred Rogers
In this 4th part in a 4 part series, I describe how when we feel secure, it allows us to be our best selves and to live and work from a place of wholeness and well-being. I also touch upon three strategies that promote secure attachments in our staff: 1) relational trust, 2) mindsight skills, and 3) resilience.
The 4 S’s include:
- Feeling safe (Part 1)
- Feeling seen (Part 2 )
- Feeling soothed (Part 3)
- Having secure attachments (Part 4 – this one)
Listen and learn what it means to feel secure and what leaders can do to help others feel secure.
Click here to download the transcript for the audio file.
Download “You Are The Key” for strategies discussed to help others feel SECURE [pdf]
Barb Avila – Synergy Autism Center
- How to Apply the Four S’s to Autism for Secure Attachments [podcast]
- Harnessing the Power of Showing Up [podcast]
- Attachment Science and the 4 S’s long version (53:06) [video]
Tina Payne Bryson
- The 4 S’s [blog]
- Reframing challenges [DRIVE doc]